B”H In the Blessed Memory of Taibl Leah Bas Sima Who Went to Gan Eden 29 Shevat 5779, 4 February 2019
It is said that when one cries and sheds tears over the death of an upright Jew, that the Holy One, Blessed is His Name, counts the tears and puts them in His treasure house. It is a commandment and a very worthy deed to cry and mourn the passing of a righteous person. G-d counts and treasures all the tears of those who weep for such a person. G-d blesses the people who cry over an upright Jew - a good and kind person. My sister was an upright Jew/an upright person, loving, kind, gentle, caring, unselfish, honest, ethical, honorable, moral, trustworthy, & trusting.
My sister was a Tzaddik in the true sense of the word, a Arighteous person.@ She never thought of herself, only of others - her family, her friends, and the community. She was a tough person like our mother, but always kind in her words and deeds. She gave to help her family & others more than she could afford. When she did not have money to help her family & friends, she was upset and worried for them. She borrowed the money to help them. She always had something good to say, even for those people others would say are bad. She lived a simple life and never asked for anything for herself. But she was willing to sacrifice everything for others - especially for her family.
She welcomed my wife into her life and loved her like a sister - and my wife loves her the same. My dear wife told me that her sister had died and by the time she arrived at the cemetery (traveling from a far away city), her sister had already been buried and everyone had gone home. She said now at least for my dear sister-in-law, I can show my love and honor her and all she has done for me & my husband, and the world she touched with her loving heart & soul.
She lived her life for her family, friends & others. Even in the worst times, she always had some good words to say. Lydia loved her family with such a precious love that one would have to go very far to find some way to measure it. She missed our parents so terribly much, Now they are together in Paradise reunited forever.
My sister=s legacy to the world is immeasurable - for all the help, love and kindness she gave to everyone, for all the happiness she brought into people=s lives, for the kindness and caring he showed, even to a stranger, for all her unselfish acts, and for the hundreds of students she taught and inspired
If she could send us a letter from her new home in Gan Eden (Paradise), she would say:
To my dear and beloved family and my dear relatives and friends,
The purpose of this letter is to console you when I will not be with you anymore. A person does not know when their time will be up, but the day will come when my place at home will be empty.
My beloved family and friends, I have seen many orphans, most of whom find themselves in darkness without hope. They feel that their world has tumbled down. Few are able to strengthen and brace themselves and to eventually elevate themselves after such a tragedy in their lives. I therefore came to the conclusion that before I can comfort you, I should teach you how to deal with the situation. I hope I succeed in this endeavor, and may you understand these words so that they illuminate your lives.
The key to the mystery of life is faith in G-d, the Creator of the Universe! It is G-d's power that keeps the world going, even each and every blade of grass derives its sustenance from the Creator and surely each human being. This spirit of life is the essence of everything, and the most important part of a person is their spirit and soul.
I trust that I have raised my children to have faith in G-d. I now encourage you to strengthen your faith and to realize that this is also the secret to the mystery of death! If life would be over for a dead person, it would be difficult to comfort your mourning. But that is not so! Although the body passes away, the person continues to exist!
Think my beloved ones. If you really loved me when I was with you, and if your love was not just superficial, you can always picture me in front of your eyes. You will know what I would have said and how I would have advised you.
Use the vision of me to give you strength and encouragement. Keep in mind: The essence of a person is the spiritual, and that part continues to live!
Our Sages teach that there are three partners to every human being: their mother, their father and the Holy One, Blessed be He. Children are used to seeing only their mother and father. The third partner is invisible to them. However, when the physical partners leave this world, there is an inner feeling in the person that pushes him closer to the third partner.
One whose faith is strong tells this in a concrete way: "My mother and father have left me, but G-d is always there." So our faith, our religion and our closeness will help us through these sad and painful times. Through our faith we will be consoled.
Now my beloved ones, have faith and your faith will be fulfilled, and may your lives be blessed and successful forever!
With All the Love I Possess Lydia
Our great teacher, Rav Yeruchem Levovitz of Mir (zt”l) wrote: "Death should be understood as one who moves from one city to another.” This is the real truth. Lydia has not died, may her memory be blessed, for she is alive. She has merely moved. Lydia is now even closer to us than before, for now there are no separations.
Lydia is alive & aware of everything, and she is close to all of her loved ones at all times!
There is a story of a man, Buntshe Schweig, Buntshe the Silent. When he died and went to heaven, the Angels asked what he wanted - they said he could have anything, after the terribly difficult and painful life he had. All he asked for was such a little thing (a piece of bread and some tea - In Russia, he was very poor and almost never had food or something hot to drink). G-d and His Angels cried. This is how my sister was. When such a good and kind person passes out of this world into the next (Olam Habah), never asking anything for herself, even G-d is crying at the loss to our world and because of that person's humility.
Everytime I spoke to her she told us how much she loved us and always asked if we were OK. This is the legacy of my dear sister.
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