Obituary of Alexander James Exarchou
Departed December 13, 2020
Alexander James Exarchou, known by the masses as "Big Alex", was a beloved father,
husband, pappou, brother, coach, construction and architecture professional, proud
chairman of the Pins for Pauly foundation, and contributor to multiple parishes,
most notably Saint Demetrios of Merrick, NY and Saints Anargyroi, Taxiarchis and
Gerasimos of Greenport, NY. He imparted strength, faith, and courage onto all who
were fortunate enough to cross his path.
A father-figure in multiple communities, he famously preached a "be your own author"
approach to life and encouraged individuals to "not let others write your story
for you". With unparalleled faith and courage, he confidently led by example in
teaching the meaning of "Philotimo" (φιλότιμο), to stand for "what is right no
matter what", putting his eternal faith above temporary popular views and material
possessions. He firmly stood for equality and civil rights, and gave a voice to
those who felt unheard.
Alexander James Exarchou is proudly survived by his wife Deborah Despina, his two
sons Alexander George and Nicholas Gregory, his daughter-in-law Sarah Sofia, his
grandson George Alexander, and all of his loving siblings, neices and nephews.
He forever emphasized the importance of his family, which he proudly held as his
Funeral Service & Final Resting Place
Due to the covid-19 pandemic and the current covid-related circumstances of the
family, there will be no in-person viewings at this time. The family intends on
celebrating Alexander's eternal love at a later date, when it is safe for all who
he loved to attend.
For the safety of everyone, the funeral service will be:
Streamed online only - Tuesday, December 22nd at 10am
Via the Saint Demetrios facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/saint.demetrios.merrick
Immediately to follow,
Alexander will be laid to rest in Section 23 at:
St. Michael’s Cemetery
7202 Astoria Blvd.
East Elmhurst, NY 11370
Directions to St. Michael’s Cemetery: http://stmichaelscemetery.com/visit/
For those who wish to follow the procession to the cemetery, the family asks
everyone to wait in their vehicles outside of Saint Demetrios church.
Masks must be worn and social distancing is an absolute must upon
arrival at St. Michael's Cemetery.
Donations & Support for the Exarchou Family
Donations may be made to support the Exarchou family in their time of
need using the following information:
Via Venmo: @AlexanderGeorge1111
Via Cash App: $DebbieExarchou
Or using the following link: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_
In honor of Alexander James Exarchou, in lieu of flowers, donations may
also be made to the Pins For Pauly foundation to continue his fight for
children who have been stricken with leukemia: https://www.pinsforpauly.org/how-to-help
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